creeates switch_ivr_set_user_extended to receive params to pass to xml_locate_user

Allocate dynamically
FS-9762 --resolve

If passed in *qmp is a null pointer return `SWITCH_STATUS_NOOP`

FS-9782: [mod_sofia] on recovery, flip the order of the record route on inbound calls only, use the record route in the same order on inbound calls and in reverse order on outbound calls as the initial route set when doing the recover invite.  Account for the call direction based on how sip considers it, not based on freeswitch direction so inbound calls after recovery are treated as outbound in this logic

FS-9782: [mod_sofia] on recovery, don't flip the order of the record route ever, on outbound calls use the record route in the reverse order as the initial route set when doing the recover invite

FS-9733 [mod_rayo] prevent bad tts format string from being generated when MRCP headers are not present

FS-9412 [switch_loadable_module.c] Make MODULE_UNLOAD event report module name (key) and file (filename), similar to event MODULE_LOAD

Add key and filename for symetry with SWITCH_EVENT_MODULE_LOAD, for api_interface, and to make it simpler to know which module is unloaded

FS-9412 #resolve

FS-9691: don't call sql code inside hash_mutex due to circular mutex contention between hash_mutex and profile->dbh_mutex