FS-3033 VS2010 libportaudio project improvements for DirectX builds and switch to build DirectX by default

only execute execute_on_[answer|media|ring] async when its expressed in app::arg form vs 'app arg form'

switch_xml: Fix a lock on reloadxml when stderr write is blocked.  Also remove an error parsing print since reason generated were wrong and duplicate.

When a session loses a race to bridge a call, the CHANNEL_BRIDGE event
handler is still run, yet session_locate is going to return null as it
won't get a read-lock on the peer's session.  Since this is a normal
and common condition, let's log this as a debug message rather than as
an error condition.