FS-2877 FS-2831 FS-2823 FS-3469 some of the patch from 2877 refactored a bit to be more centralized to sip and some other stuff added on, please test

add presence to mod_valet_parking subscribe to the lot name for general stats or individual slots to monitor with park+ prefix *note* this used to be used in mod_fifo which now will use queue+ going forward

FS-3471 making this the new default and patching libdingaling to use it exclusively with openssl, now we actually have single thread for gtalk an no gah noodlez

add <param name="core-odbc-required" value="true"/> to require connection to core db over odbc for startup